It is time to step up your leadership game!
Did you know that your success at leadership, business, friendship, sports and practically every endeavor you attempt is largely determined by your self-image? Think about this … have you noticed how leaders who have confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and achievers of great things? Good things just drop in their laps on a regular basis … great jobs … great partnerships … great projects … great opportunities … and they seem to have fun in just about everything they do.
On the flip side, notice how some leaders seem to be magnets for failure, disappointments, setbacks and crappy projects. Their plans always seem to go awry, they stay under the radar, associate themselves with people who are going nowhere and get labeled as lacking potential. I have worked with several of these leaders both as a colleague and as an executive coach. These leaders did not realize that some of their behaviors were indeed sabotaging their own successes. What many of my fellow executive coaching colleagues and I have discovered with these leaders, is that their problems generally stemmed from difficulty with self-awareness, self-esteem, self-control, self-motivation; self-direction or self-discipline … just to name a few. When we were able to help these leaders gain more confidence, they typically experienced a domino effect leading to greater clarity of what they wanted to accomplish, higher productivity and increased levels of effectiveness all allowing them to turn the tables and become magnets for success.
Confident leaders are secure in their knowledge, capabilities and experience. They are always looking for ways to learn more and use what they learn to move them to the next level. You can spot a confident leader from afar … he or she knows what they are bringing to the table and are willing step out of their comfort zone. How about you … how many of the following statements are true for you?
- You convey confidence in yourself and your work
- You surround yourself with talented people
- You don’t interrupt people when they are giving you feedback
- You thank people for constructive criticism
- You involve other people in decisions that affect them
- You regularly assess your strengths and limitations
- You share your honest opinions, even though they may be unpopular
Tips for action
- If you are looking to improve your confidence and self-assurance, ask a mentor or trusted colleague to give you feedback on how you currently display confidence and self-assurance. Also, think about a colleague who is self-assured and confident and write down the behaviors that give you that impression. Are those behaviors in your comfort zone?
- Consider situations in which you feel or have been told by others that you seem to lack confidence. Try to identify the causes to your reaction. What is it about that those situations … is it a skills or experience challenge or, … is it triggered by the people involved?
- Assess whether you are reluctant to pursue continuous learning opportunities. One clue could be that you do not want to take any chances in areas where you are not already confident you will succeed. If you notice a pattern in this behavior … start small … pursue something in an area where the stakes are low, then move progressively to more visible opportunities.
Spend some time reflecting and working through the above tips. Your future will benefit greatly. For an additional workbook on how to reclaim your confidence edge download my two keys using the following link:
To your continued success!